Couple Struggling in Trunk of Car

Unexpected Obstacles and Spoiled Life Plans My partner and I have struggled during 2020 and 2021. We have faced obstacles we could never imagine. Long-distance relationships are difficult by themselves. Add in a global pandemic that dampers traveling, a few life plans that fell through, and some overbearing health challenges, and it’s a recipe for struggling.  Our mantra throughout the pandemic has been we will make an extraordinary life from an ordinary income. With the struggles of the past year and a half, this mantra has become extra important. We have both had unexpected obstacles, to say the least. Been forced to expand our creativity and grow outside our comfort zone. Learning new skills has become essential to survival. The Lifesaving Support System Luckily, we have found strength in our support systems. A subset of Personal Finance Twitter, I have dubbed Compassionate Personal Finance. There are so many great people…

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anxiety and acheivement

The Elementary Years Ever since I can remember I’ve had severe anxiety. Even in Kindergarten, I remember being nervous about meeting my new teacher and the first day of school. But I’ve also always sought out achievement. I can remember after thirty-some years asking in Kindergarten why I never went to preschool. My parents always told me I didn’t go to preschool because I didn’t need it.  The High School Years I remember going to schedule classes for my freshman year. Again I was anxious about starting high school. When I went to schedule my classes I remember being required to sign up for college prep classes. I didn’t want to take college prep classes. I wanted to take the easy route. But this went against my need for achievement I don’t recall much about high school and achievement other than outside of high school, my scouting career, which I…

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structure and flexibility on a desk

Structure and Flexibility In My Personal Life

There are a few different ways that I add structure and flexibility into my daily habits. The daily outline I made up for myself has ample downtime as well. Time for work, socializing, my relationships, and fun are all considered. It is not a “schedule.” This outline allows me to be more open to changes in my daily life.

I also use a certain vocabulary with myself to stay on track of progress. For example, I have an eating plan rather than a diet. I use a spending plan instead of a budget. The path to retirement is a journey, not a plan. My career is a path, rather than a ladder. My mindset is that of a student, always growing and learning. Practicing mindfulness meditation rather than trying to not think or stop thoughts, is how I meditate.

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